Considering Disclosing
It's your story, it’s your choice.
Sharing experiences of abuse, harassment, or interpersonal violence can be a difficult and profoundly personal choice. Only you can know if you are ready.
Here are some tips when considering disclosure of harassment, abuse, or violence:
Prioritise Your Safety: Ensure you have a safe environment and have emotional support before discussing any harassment, abuse or violence. Reach out to a trusted friend, family member or counselor who can provide emotional support.
Seek Professional Help: A trauma-informed therapist can help you navigate your feelings and provide coping strategies. Look for professional help to guide you through the process.
Know Your Rights: Understand the relevant laws and regulations in your sport or country. Find out what your rights are and the potential legal actions you can take.
Choose the Right Time and Place: Disclosing your experience should be on your terms. Pick a time and place where you feel safe, comfortable, and in control.
Start Slowly: Begin with trusted individuals or professionals. You don't need to share your entire story all at once.
Be Prepared for Reactions: Understand that people may react differently to your disclosure, ranging from disbelief to empathy. Mentally prepare for various responses.
Document Your Experience: Keep records, including dates, times, and witnesses.
Lean on Supportive Networks: Seek out organisations, support groups or hotlines dedicated to survivors of abuse or harassment in sports. Connecting with others who have similar experiences can be incredibly validating and helpful.
Consider Reporting: Report to authorities if you feel safe, and seek legal guidance.
Prioritise Self-Care: Prioritise self-care and maintaining a healthy routine to support your mental and emotional well-being.
Be Patient with Yourself: Healing from trauma is a journey that takes time. Be patient with yourself and don't rush the process.
Advocate for Change: If you feel comfortable, consider becoming an advocate for change within your sport. Your experiences can help raise awareness and drive reforms to prevent future abuse.
Remember that disclosure is a deeply personal decision, and you have the right to choose when and how to share your experiences. Your healing and well-being should always be the top priority.